Patience and Gratitude, Ibn al Qayyim al Jawziyyah, Ta Ha Publications
Patience has many other names, according to the situation. If patience consists of restraining sexual desires, it is called honour, the opposite of which is adultery and promiscuity. If it consists of controlling ones stomach, it is called self control, opposite of which is greed. If it consists of keeping quiet about that which is not fit to disclose, it is discretion, the opposite of which is disclosing secrets, lying, slander or libel. If it consists of being content with ones need, it is called abstemiousness, the opposite of which is covetousness. If it consists of controlling ones anger, then it is called forbearence, the opposite of which is impulsiveness and hasty reaction. If it consists of refraining from haste, then it is called gracefullness and steadiness, the opposite of which is to be hot headed. If it consists of running away, then it is called courage, the opposite of which is cowardice. If it consists of refraining from taking revenge, then it is called forgiveness, the opposite of which is revenge. If it consists of refraining from being stingy then it is called generosity, the opposite of which is miserliness. If it consists of refraining from being lazy and helpless, then it is called dynamism and initiative. If it consists of refraining from blaiming and accusing other people, then it is called chivalry (muru'ah, literally manliness). p. 15 of 83
